What makes a good friend?

 “Friend” it’s a word maybe overused by the people. Anyway, the criteria we search in a person to be considered a good friend depend by each of us.

Personally I prefer a friend honest and loyal, he has to tell me always the truth, excepted some particular situations. I don’t put up with people who tell me lies trying to hide even very banal things.

Besides my ideal friend should be polite, sensitive and nice. I think no one wants a friend rough, I consider it uncomfortable. But sometimes there might be situation where you are allowed to be rough, but you have to control yourself when necessary.

A friend has also to make you laugh, this fills up the bigger time of a relationship but you should also talk with your friend about problems and important arguments: we should not spend all the time at laughing.

Last but not least, a friend should be clever. In fact this feature is very important and I think it complements the before features, indeed it’s very difficult talking about problems and important arguments if this feature miss.

These are my personal criteria but in short people have a quite same way of thinking and I think this way has many features the mine has.

What makes me suffer?

In this paragraph obviously I will not talk about what makes me suffer seen by a physical viewpoint, in fact the mind problems, not seen as a mental illnesses, are more complicated and they may be more important than the others.

Even in this case the situations that may make suffer a person are different for everyone, in fact a side I don’t consider significant, might be cause of pain for another one.

Personally when a person explains his viewpoint about my flaws, for example, I don’t get angry with him but it depends by the way he tells them to me.

He should not tell them poking fun at me or trying to make me suffer, exactly.

Anyway there are other thousands of things that might make me suffer, but I think the pain is almost always caused by who know how to use the problem, and not by the problem itself.

But this concerns the problems in the relationships. There might be other ones but nearly all of them are linked to the relations with other people, indeed in a modern society, like the one we are living in, it is impossible don’t relate with anyone.