WHAT MAKES A GOOD FRIEND

It's difficult to define what makes a good friend. Everyone has got a personal idea of friendship. A good friend is a person who has got the qualities  that match with ours, and has the same idea of friendship. It isn't easy to find a good friend. Everyday we deal with lots of different people, who are more than simple acquaintances but aren't in fact true friends. They are people with whom we talk about this and that but not about arguments which are important for us. We don't share our thoughts with them and don't feel really free. There are also "normal" friends, those you go around and have fun with, but who can't really understand you.  A good friend on the other side  is a person who can understand what you think, even if he/she doesn't share it. You can tell  him  your problems, being sure he won't judge you and he/she will only try to help you. A good friend can always tell you the right things, those which make you feel better, but also those which hurt you at that moment but then you understand they are the most right. You can talk and debate about everything and what you like best, you can share your interests. You go out with him/her and you have a lot of fun, you are fine and feel happy. This is a good friend for me.

WHAT MAKES ME SUFFER

There are a lot of things which can make us suffer. Some don't make us suffer a lot, we don't bother about them. Others hurt us and don't leave us in peace. People who hurt us don't often know it, or they don't mind. There are also lots of things which can make a person suffer but not another, or they can hurt if they're said at a definite moment, but at another one they could seem they aren't important. Everything depends on the person and on the moment. Words are sometimes said to hurt us, but they may also be said with the best intentions, anyway they make us suffer. Something may hurt us if it is about arguments painful by themselves, injuries still opened which we're trying to sew up again. We may also suffer if we find a person not to be like we imagined, if we find he/she has pulled our leg or has betrayed our trust. Not only other people may hurt us. We may also suffer for reasons which don't depend on others. For example if we aren't like we'd want to be or we don't manage in understanding how we'd want to, if we don't any longer know what we'd want or we'd want to become, if we don't feel well with people or things we did. We may also suffer for others. i.e. when we see someone in trouble but we know we can do nothing for him and anyway we don't manage in accepting it. To eliminate a pain, we can flee from it, we can hide it, but it isn't a good solution because it may come back and hurt again. To eliminate a pain you mustn't flee from it, you must think about it and try to find the best solution, and if there isn't, you must think about it anyway, to succeed in understanding it. You must face the problem, even if it hurts you, only in this way you'll manage in being better.