RELATIONSHIP

The object of the present text is to discuss about “the relationship between people” and how relationship change during different stage’s of a person’s life.

So now I am going to express my opinion about the argument.

To begin, I have recently listened to a recording of a television programme in which a psychologist talk about how the relationship between people change during life.

What I have learned from the listening activity is that a person creates his or her identity thanks to the relation with others because people do not have an identity since they born. It means everybody change once identity according to the people they meet.

Starting from the beginning children at pre school age are like a white sheet of paper where nothing is written consequently they consider their parents their only point of view;  another reason why children see the world through their parents eyes is because they have any other contact apart the family. Therefore they grow up in a family regime in which they have to follow their parents languages, culture, religion, goals, habits, costumes and so on. As a result they start resembling their parents.

To support my idea I am going to explain why I recognized my childhood: when I was a child my safety came from my mother and my father so I followed everything they said thinking it was the right options. In this way I built my first identity according to their ideals.

Later, when children start to go to school they meet other people such as teachers or peers.

The most important consequence is that they start to create new relationship usually with teachers and classmates indeed they try to form groups and talk with others and in this way they start to relate, as it requires the link with someone else. They create a new identity because they are called with a certain name and they are described in a certain way. In addition they broadens their horizons as a matter of fact they learn to respect to new norms, they listen to opinion different from their one and they know people different from themselves. 

Moreover things get more complicated to cope with when children become teenagers. It is difficult to communicate with them because they consider themselves adults and autonomous and they change the identity once again. It happens because guys often start smoking or drinking only because it is a trand, become aggressive to be stronger or superior to others and want to stay out all night because if you go home at 4 or 5 a.m you are “cool”. And as I told a few lines ago teenagers do not want to listen to their parents and respect their rules so it becomes difficult to create a relationship between them; boys and girls think they know everything ignoring the fact that parents know the world better than they do.

 Everyone creates various types of relationship during their lifetime, some of them are necessary for someone’s life while others are toxic relationship.The most important relation I have is the one with my brother because he is my point of reference. I get to express all my feelings and emotions with him while it is often difficult to share what I really feel. I get on really well with him indeed we help each other whenever we are in need and we do not need to talk to understand each other. All things considered, there is no doubt that relationship is one of the most important principle for everyone existence and different kind of relation, situation and circumstance change and develop the identity.