The following text try to analyze the famous phrase “d’amore non si muore” that means “we can not die for love”. In this analysis we have considered three examples: the song “Rose rosse” by Rino Gaetano, a female murder and the tragedy “Romeo and Juliet” by Shakespeare.

D’AMORE NON SI MUORE

The saying “d’amore non si muore” means that a feeling could not kill a man even if it is the most strong: love; but it is true? There are some cases where people speak of death for love.

 In his famous song “Rose rosse” Rino Gaetano says that he can not die for love but at the same time he suffers a lot: he feels alone and oppressed by his sadness because is life is in function of his memories.

In the real life die for love seems impossible because love is the most beautiful universal feeling, but it is also very dangerous. It keeps out the rationality and could bring a person into the madness. One face of love shows its “purity” and its unconditional affection, but on the other side it has destructive, obsessive and uncontrollable features.

The main problems are the insecurity and the absence of an essential balance of powers. Somebody when is insecure became possessive and could turn his possessiveness in violence towards the beloved. This is one of the numerous causes of feminicide. Possessiveness arises from a kind of emotional dependence that in England is called “love addiction” and it can lead to the extreme limit.

Infidelity could bring not only to a murder, but also to a suicide and the same could be also when a love story ended and one of the two lovers still loves the other.

Alluding to the theme of “death for love” the well-read reader think to the story of “Romeo and Juliet” written by Shakespeare in 1595.

The two lovers belong to two rival families and when Juliet’s father tries to marriage her with a count she takes a drug that makes her seem dead.  When Romeo sees her he believes that she is dead and poisons himself because he thinks that he could not survive without Juliet.

When Juliet wakes from her trance and sees Romeo dead she kills herself with a knife for escape the sense of guilt and the marriage with another man.

This double suicide is considered the most famous and emblematic death caused by love.

In the first example the singer do not really die, but only speak about a feeling. The female murder is a kind of homicide that arises to the bad consequences of love like the suicide of Romeo and Juliet, but the first one is real and the other idealized.

In the feminicide the man is make blind by jealousy  and want keep a revenge for is broken heart, so his emotion is no more love in this moment, but the hate that comes from it.

In the suicide of Romeo and Juliet their love stay pure: their tragedy end start when Juliet drugs herself to not be unfaithful to his true love and they kill themselves to stay together in death as in life.

The song by Rino Gaetano and the tragedy by William Shakespeare have also a common element: the way to see love.

Is there difference between the way of love at the time of Shakespeare and now?

No, because the feelings are universal, therefore love is the same in every time and place.